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<\/a><\/p>\nHer talk was divided into 3 main sections, and her book into 6:<\/strong> You would be interested in reading this book if\u2026 I think that the most significant piece in this book is her articulation of how parents and educators can reframe stress and anxiety. In her talk, she said that schools are designed to stress our students \u2013 this is how they learn. In her book, she writes, \u201c\u2026both common sense and scientific research tells us that the stress of operating beyond our comfort zones helps us grow\u2026 Learning to brave stressful situations is also a skill that develops with practice.\u201d (pg. 4)<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n From this concept flows the theme of her book: how might we work with our daughters and students to build their capacity to handle stress in healthy ways?<\/p>\n We don\u2019t want our daughter\u2019s stress level to be consistently too low or too high. But we can embrace reasonable levels of stress as a nutrient for our daughter\u2019s healthy development that will help her grow into the strong and durable young woman we want her to be. (pg. 4)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n She goes on to explain three different types of stress: life events, daily hassels and chronic stress. She outlines how these manifest in each of the chapters listed above. She also connects stress to anxiety. I really like her work on anxiety and how we can understand it: \u201c\u2026but while stress usually refers to the feelings of emotional or mental strain or tension,\u00a0\u00a0anxiety<\/em> usually refers to fear, dread or panic.\u201d (pg. 11)<\/p>\n Anxiety is like the center point of a radar \u2013 it is an early warning system for threats. Over time, it has evolved from the fear of a lion on the plains, to fear of social threats, \u201c\u2026anxiety works to protect us from the world and from ourselves.\u201d (pg. 13)<\/p>\n So here\u2019s the first thing that we can do to help our daughters take control of their anxiety: we can teach them that anxiety is often their friend. (pg. 13)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n She goes on to explain how to listen to \u2013 not drown out or avoid \u2013 the feelings of anxiety. She outlines how anxiety can overload girls\u2019 response system, and how sometimes they seek to blunt their feelings with alcohol, social media or drugs. Instead, we should use these feelings to give us a moment of pause.<\/p>\n The book is well laid out, and she uses narratives to really bring to life her strategies and approaches that, I believe, are valuable as a parent (of two boys I might add) and as an educator.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re interested in learning more, please check out my notes that I just shared with my colleagues at my school:<\/p>\n MY NOTES FROM ATTENDING LISA DAM<\/a>OUR AT BRANKSOME HALL<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When Lisa Damour first took the stage at Branksome Hall during her only Canadian stop on her \u2018Under Pressure\u2019 book tour, she immediately made us all feel comfortable and welcome to ask questions about some of the most important issues that we as parents and educators face for our daughters and students. Let me begin…
\n1) Coming to terms with stress and anxiety
\n2) Girls at Home
\n3) Girls among Girls
\n4) Girls among Boys
\n5) Girls at School
\n6) Girls in the Culture<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>\u2026you are a parent or educator of girls
\n\u2026you have an interest in the new normal for adolescents
\n\u2026you are looking for strategies and language to help connect and support girls
\n\u2026you have questions about the epidemic of stress and anxiety in adolescents
\n\u2026you want to do something positive for your students who are feeling stress and anxiety<\/p>\n
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